Birthday Blessings 2023: A (BDSM) Year in Review
Above: portrait of the artist as a funerary altar; a 2023 birthday tableau
We have completed another solar return. I know I say that every birthday marks the most transformative year of my life, but I mean it every time, and this year especially so. My life gets richer by the year, the month, the week, and I am grateful for every minute of it. Thank you to everyone who has suffered for me, bled for me, wept for me, swallowed me, made me laugh; you have pushed me to my edges as much as I have pushed you to yours. Here’s what I accomplished in the past year.
This year, I
Began playing with one of the filthiest masochists I have ever met, and allowed myself to explore the extents of what can be done to the human body. This has bled (pun intended) extensively into my professional life, and allowed me to dream up some of the most deranged scenes I’ve had the pleasure of conducting yet.
Continued falling deeper in love with my leather family and my life partner, engaging with magic and building life-altering rituals that inform how I hold space for others.
Deepened the D/s relationships I have with my client submissives. I have had a dynamic with some of these submissives for years now at this point, and I have learned so much: both the very sexy and terrifying play and managing a dynamic to make it sustainable have been deeply enriching. I want to be here for a good time and a long time.
Broadened how I connect with submissives from all over the world through online platforms! If you are not based in New York, I highly recommend you connect with me on Onlyfans or Sextpanther. Though my true love has always been in person sessions, i’ve been having a great time exploring how virtual avenues allow me to explore beyond the physical.
Fulfilled last year’s goal of experimentation with saline, branding, and nailing someone’s genitals to a board ✅
Read Avgi Saketoupolou’s Sexuality Beyond Consent, and allowed it to radically shift how I approach certain sessions, especially when those sessions involve deep transformation. This led to some incredible openings in scenes with people who had been seeking to let go of some emotional blocks.
Travelled to 5 different countries (Korea, Italy, Germany, Portugal, and France), and got to connect with other kinksters from all over the world.
Above: a diptych of post-scene damage from the past year
In this upcoming year, I:
want to shatter and be shattered, to put it bluntly. I am looking to engage in scenes that push people to their limits, that hold them over the cliff. I want to explore the depths of fear and euphoria, and I want to do with you as my medium.
welcome more scenes with queer people. I love connecting w queer clients from all over the world, and I view the play that we do together to be an act of mutual care. You deserve to be selfish in your desires, especially in a world that is not friendly to queer perversion.
want to explore more play that pushes physical limits, such as catheters, sharps bondage, fish hooks, saline, fisting, and more.
more LONG extended scenes involving psychological torture, bondage, and/or extensive travel and Fly Me To Yous! Let’s go see the sights, have wagyu and oysters, then I’ll tie you to the bedframe and make you sleep at my feet, only to wake refreshed and do it all again~
and as always, more group scenes. You can find the friends I love playing with most here.
Thank you to everyone who has sent happy birthday and Dommeversary wishes to me already. I had a funeral this year for my birthday, to celebrate being annihilated by love, and I tucked all your sentiments in next to me, in my grave. Thank you to my leather family, my partner, my lover, and my submissives for all of your gifts. If you haven’t gotten me one yet, you can visit my wishlist or send me a tribute.
looking forward to more debauchery with you this coming year 💗
xoxo,
Empress Wu